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The Care and Feeding of Your Found Family

May 27, 2016

Orphan Survival Guide- Care and Feeding of Your Found Family

Hey y’all! It’s been a while! I got swept up in mental health stuff, school stuff, and work stuff this semester, but I haven’t forgotten about you. I’m hoping that with stable work schedules and better meds (maybe?) that I can get back in the swing of things this summer.

This week marked the 10th anniversary of me moving to Iowa, which is huge! 10 years ago I left a pretty crappy family in Florida and started building up a family of choice in Iowa. It’s been hard, but 100% worth it.

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employment, human interaction

Networking Tips

October 26, 2015

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Two weeks ago, I hit the limit of my extroversion. In the span of three days I attended two networking events and a conference. I talked to a lot of people. I got two job offers out of them and learned a lot more in panels and three-minute conversations than I have in most of my semester-long classes.

When I say that I’m only in school for the connections, I’m not exaggerating. Much.

I would gladly do without the group project busywork and outdated lectures, but I’m milking every networking opportunity I can out of this program. From my department’s speed networking events to conferences to TA transcription circles, I’m there.

I’m not the world’s greatest networker. I talk too much and I’m still learning how to stop talking to someone. It’s hard for an ENFP to turn that off.

But there are some tricks to getting the most out of networking opportunities that I’ve learned through, well, networking. There are tons of blog posts and Pinterest infographics out there that cover Networking 101 so why not throw my hat into the ring?

I don’t follow all these tips all the time because it’s a lot of work and it can be exhausting (especially when you’ve been doing it for two days already), but even hitting just a few key points will make you more memorable to people who can help you Go Places.

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human interaction, moving, orphan problems, personal, resources

How To Run Away From Home: Before

July 1, 2015

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While actually running away from home is often a heat-of-the-moment decision, it doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Rarely do kids or young adults run away from home the very first time the thought enters their mind. It was something I considered time and time again before it was finally a reality.

Whether you’re giving your home life second, third, or fiftieth chances before hitting your limit, or busting out after yet another bad fight, if you’re truly committed to getting out, you need a plan.

Where are you going? Who can help you? What do you need?

Not only do you need to pack a bug-out bag with some or all of your life necessities, but you need to be emotionally prepared for the fallout.

Today’s post is about working out your plan to pack your bags and leave.

How To Run Away From Home

  1. Intro: How To Run Away From Home
  2. Before: Planning & Preparation
  3. After: Resources & What’s Next

A version of this series was originally posted on the Orphan Survival Guide Tumblr.

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human interaction, orphan problems, personal

10 Things Estranged Adult Children Are Tired of Hearing

June 23, 2015

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Following a particularly awkward Father’s Day on social media which culminated in lots of Glee feels and multiple people blocked on Facebook, a lot of acquaintances learned about my relationship with my biological family.

The short version is: we have no relationship.

The longer version will be detailed in a series next week about how to run away from home.

There are a lot of misconceptions about estranged adult children, which means that the second you tell someone you have no contact with your parents, you need to be prepared for awkward questions and nagging–especially from other parents. Other parents are The Worst. They get crazy-defensive because your existence reminds them that they ultimately have no control or power over their own children, and that is terrifying to them.

For the most part, though, you get a lot of uncomfortable silences and pitying glances, because suddenly your Issues are so much more than someone initially assumed. You might even become Inspiration Porn. Then there are the people who think that you’re exaggerating or selfish–or blame you for the estrangement–because family is family

And don’t even think about mentioning it on your dating profile or on a date, because then you’re branded with Daddy Issues.

It’s an uncomfortable and stigma-ridden conversation, and even if you try to turn it into a joke (my family’s sooo crazy!) people will inevitably treat you differently for it. So here are the top 10 things estranged adult children are sick and tired of hearing, courtesy of Burt Hummel, your TV replacement dad:

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college, human interaction, studying

How to Ask for a Due Date Extension

May 10, 2015

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It’s that time of the semester again.

It’s the Sunday before finals, the last week of classes, when you look at your planner and realize that not only are you nowhere near finished with your final projects, but they’re all due on the same day within two hours of each other.

Plus you have finals and haven’t even begun to look for and create study guides.

Whether it’s procrastination, overwhelming responsibilities, or any other excuse you tell yourself, you might not be able to finish everything on time. So what can you do?

  • You can turn in mediocre or unfinished work and accept whatever grade you receive.
  • You can turn everything in late and hope for the best.
  • You can just ignore the problem and shamefully avoid eye contact with your professors.
  • Or you can swallow your pride and ask for a due date extension.

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