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How To Run Away From Home: Before

July 1, 2015

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While actually running away from home is often a heat-of-the-moment decision, it doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Rarely do kids or young adults run away from home the very first time the thought enters their mind. It was something I considered time and time again before it was finally a reality.

Whether you’re giving your home life second, third, or fiftieth chances before hitting your limit, or busting out after yet another bad fight, if you’re truly committed to getting out, you need a plan.

Where are you going? Who can help you? What do you need?

Not only do you need to pack a bug-out bag with some or all of your life necessities, but you need to be emotionally prepared for the fallout.

Today’s post is about working out your plan to pack your bags and leave.

How To Run Away From Home

  1. Intro: How To Run Away From Home
  2. Before: Planning & Preparation
  3. After: Resources & What’s Next

A version of this series was originally posted on the Orphan Survival Guide Tumblr.

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10 Things Estranged Adult Children Are Tired of Hearing

June 23, 2015

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Following a particularly awkward Father’s Day on social media which culminated in lots of Glee feels and multiple people blocked on Facebook, a lot of acquaintances learned about my relationship with my biological family.

The short version is: we have no relationship.

The longer version will be detailed in a series next week about how to run away from home.

There are a lot of misconceptions about estranged adult children, which means that the second you tell someone you have no contact with your parents, you need to be prepared for awkward questions and nagging–especially from other parents. Other parents are The Worst. They get crazy-defensive because your existence reminds them that they ultimately have no control or power over their own children, and that is terrifying to them.

For the most part, though, you get a lot of uncomfortable silences and pitying glances, because suddenly your Issues are so much more than someone initially assumed. You might even become Inspiration Porn. Then there are the people who think that you’re exaggerating or selfish–or blame you for the estrangement–because family is family

And don’t even think about mentioning it on your dating profile or on a date, because then you’re branded with Daddy Issues.

It’s an uncomfortable and stigma-ridden conversation, and even if you try to turn it into a joke (my family’s sooo crazy!) people will inevitably treat you differently for it. So here are the top 10 things estranged adult children are sick and tired of hearing, courtesy of Burt Hummel, your TV replacement dad:

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Summer Bucket List 2015

May 20, 2015

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Hello, new readers from KCRG! Welcome!

I mentioned earlier this week that I had big news to share, and that was it! I spent Monday afternoon talking to Beth Malicki at KCRG about what it’s like being a lonely orphan child (all grown up) and how I got started working on Orphan Survival Guide.

The story will run during the 6 o’clock news tonight, but for those of us with no TVs or at work when the news is on, I’ll definitely post a link to check it out once it’s up online!

ETA: Here’s the link, complete with video of me petting the cats at The Haunted Bookshop!

Last weekend I wrote about all the semester resolutions I did (and didn’t) accomplish this semester. I managed to pay all my bills and get pretty decent grades, but I really needed to take a look at my work-life balance. I was pulling really long days that were pretty draining and didn’t make a lot of time for self-care.

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