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Depression for Extroverts

October 8, 2015

orphan survival guide - depression and college - life is pointless and nothing matters

I have major depression.

The smallest thing can set it off–and there are a thousand smallest things when you’re in college. Professors who won’t make accommodations for your work schedule, bad feedback on a paper you worked really hard on, finding the sidewalk in front of your class blocked by homecoming stages, your crazy neighbor’s cats picking fights with your cats…

Depression isn’t rational.

Most of the time, the things that set it off don’t make sense or they’re not a “good enough” reason to be depressed.

Depression isn’t just being sad for no reason.

Irritability, apathy, hopelessness, exhaustion… it comes in so many forms. It’s anxiety and perfectionism over minute details that keep you from finishing anything. It’s wanting to do nothing but lay in bed all day. It’s composing dozens of angry emails to your asshole professor that you’ll never send.

It’s being sad and then getting frustrated because you don’t know why you’re sad.

It’s keeping everything bottled up inside because you’ve created a reliable, stable, happy persona. It’s people saying, “But you seem so happy!” and “Considering your childhood, I’m amazed that you’re so functional!” when you feel like setting up permanent residence in bed.

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Spotlight: Your Holiday Mom

December 22, 2014

A few months ago, I joked with my friends that there should be a social network that connects parents with empty nest syndrome and orphans.

Your Holiday Mom is not quite that thing, but it’s a really uplifting site that I’m glad I started following this winter. It features sweet holiday letters from parents around the world, addressed to LGBTQ kids and adults who don’t have the love and support of their birth parents. Subscribing to YHM is like having Burt Hummel emailing you every day through the holidays.

YHM also has a Tumblr, which reblogs the posts from the site and also replies to fanmail that will make you cry just as much as the letters do.

The content of the letters varies, but you don’t have to be an orphan or LGBTQ youth to get the warm and fuzzies while reading them. If you need a pick-me-up or a good cry, head over to Your Holiday Mom to see parenting done right.